Mixed media on paper
58 (H) x 40cm (W)
Framed: Natural Timber with bright white matt board.
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Parental Alienation is tied closely to mental illnesses such as Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder. In many cases perpetrators of the abuse are unaware or delusional about their behaviour. They often ‘present well’ to the outside world but are constantly driven by very real and uncontrollable urges to control and manipulate situations and people, including their children, in order to protect their insecurities and the image people have of them.
When marriages break down, people who suffer these conditions can start to use their children as the only available avenue to maintain levers of control and manipulation over their ex spouse. Their children become weapons of war. They intertwine themselves with their children presenting as the package. Meaning “if you want to have a relationship with your children then you must also accept my accusations, my criticism, my control and my abuse”. In the fateful words of one alienator – “this is not for negotiation”.
Alienators will constantly place themselves as an obstacle in the path between the other parent and their child. The child is quickly taught that the rules of engagement with their ‘rejected’ parent is that every word, every conversation, every idea, every offer, every gesture must be reported to their controlling parent. Nothing can be decided or approved without the alienators involvement. If the targeted parent tries to open up direct lines of communication with their children they are branded as being ‘disrespectful’ and ‘abusive’.
During any minor or major interaction between a parent and their child, the alienator will intervene as the child’s ‘spokesperson’ in order to re-engage in family violence against their ex. Every interaction is dom inated by their judgment and need for control. The children’s feelings and opinions are automatically canceled out by those of the alienator. Whilst the alienator claims to be ‘protecting’ their child by intervening on their behalf, in real terms the child’s welfare is completely dismissed and their well being is pushed to the background – an irrelevant sideshow to the main event….mummy proving that daddy is a bad guy.