Watercolour and Acrylic on Paper 56cm (H) x 40cm (W)
Framed: Natural timber and glass with Bright White Matt Board
Frame Size 89 x 56cm – 3 cm deep | Ready to hang
Part of my “Erased” series focusing on the tactics used in the process of Parental Alienation.
This piece focuses on CONTROL, which is the engine that drives the entire dynamic of parental alienation. Like master puppeteers alienators manipulate and control all the actors on the stage. They control their children with fear. They in uence their kids into feeling scared of their other parent. They interrupt and suspend communication and visitation. Once isolated from the other parent they control kids through a fear of abandonment and an unhealthy dependence – kids fall into line with expected beliefs and behaviour for fear of losing the other ‘protective’ parent too.
Alienators control their ex partners with bribery – by dangling their kids as carrots in front of them. They offer access to the kids in exchange for compliance to their excessive demands and agreement with their narcisstic opinions.
Finally they control their circle of in uence with stories, building a war chest of outraged allies who might
rush to their defence but will surely feed their need for narcisstic validation. They will quickly cut off any ties with anyone allied to the rejected parent so they can fully control the story which is presented as the entire truth. They will go about a full blown campaign of denigration where they play the victim. The children, now aligned with their story for fear of the consequences, serve to verify and justify the ‘dangerous’ view of their other parent.
And so the circle is complete. And all the ying monkeys dance endlessly around the puppeteer in the cha- os of the narcissists illusion.