Acrylic on Canvas
50cm (W) x 50cm (H) x 3.5cm (D)
Part of my erased series focusing on the tactics used during the process of parental alienation – where one parent influences their child to reject their other parent without valid cause.
Parents who alienate their children from their other parent often use a cumulative arsenal to chip away at the trust, love and respect the child has for their other parent…. and pets sometimes serve as a very effective weapon. In this case Johnny’s mother manufactures another reason why it is not a good idea for him to spend time with his Dad.
Johnny had always begged for a kitten and nally after his parents separated his Mum said he could have one. At her house. Johnny was besotted and wanted to spend all his time with his new kitten. His Mum told him that the kitten couldn’t go with him to Dads as it was scary for the kitten and Dad wouldn’t look after it. She told him his Dad hated cats. So Johnny begged his Mum to be able to stay with her.
Of course when it came time to tell Johnny’s Dad that he did not want to visit, his Mum rmly attested that unfortunately it was Johnny’s wish and she could not change his mind. She reminded Johnny’s dad that if he was a good father he would respect his sons wishes and not traumatise him by making him stay when he did not want to. She now rmly believes she is a caring parent who puts her child’s best interests rst.
If Johnny’s Dad pursues the visit he know that it is Johnny who will end up in the middle and will be forced to choose between his parents. Johnny’s Dad knows he has been through a lot with the separation already and does not want to make life more stressful for his son. So he doesn’t see Johnny. And Johnny doesn’t see him.